So what's it going to take to live in the new energies of the planet? Dr. Dain (Access Consciousness) would have us run a bunch of clearing statements. If you haven't found him yet, I suggest you sign up for his emails and maybe even his classes.
Recently, I wrote to a friend I've known for around four years. In the email, I referred to my observations regarding a relationship he's been in in which the possibilities were limited. I said, "Go after what you really want."
What does this mean? Go after what you really want....
Yesterday, I had the opportunity to observe a couple who had been together ten years and are married now. He mentioned in a joking way that whenever he cracks jokes, she rolls her eyes and doesn't take much humor in them anymore. In watching them, I noticed that while they were energetically compatible, they were disconnected.
If they continue on this path, like this...the door to intimacy will eventually close and then they'll be in the divorce court wondering what happened and/or angry at each other that "he took the best years of my life" or something like that.
At least, they are energetically compatible. Not everyone is when they marry or get together. But I bet most people don't bother to pay attention to the energy of things at this level.
I took a job a year ago for a certain set of reasons that in hindsight were based on the limiting thinking I held at the time in my energy field. The results have been limited ever since and the conclusion I had to eventually draw, was that I needed to "reformat" the career development.
The Nitty Gritty of it All
It is not easy to admit to oneself that conclusions we drew at one time in the past were based on a limiting set of beliefs or understandings and that those have led us to a place - a dead end. Maybe it is not "dead" exactly but it certainly didn't result in the desired outcome. And yet, it is pretty clear that we were "kidding" ourselves from the beginning.
Well meaning friends, family and society may not be in a position to foster forward momentum or change. In the case of relationships - many people around us are in negative or incompatible relationships "trying" to make them work or justifying their existence in the first place. How are they are going to aid a person in breaking that mold and "going after what they really want" when they can't do it themselves.
In the case of the couple who are disconnected, they may not have learned the tools to foster connection. In fact, they may unconsciously be re-creating the concept of relationship that was given to them in the family structure of their upbringing.
When a young couple says "well we've been together ten years so well, you know, things just aren't that funny anymore," I think to myself - they bought into a "matrix" or set of beliefs that marriages become boring and dull and you can't say connected.
In the positively aligned relationships I know of, the couple are intimately connected and share a desire to make each other happy. They might recognize through the noticing of signals of one sort or another, "what is going on over there, she isn't laughing at my jokes..." and maybe delving into why that might be. They are consistently dancing in the moment with each other and delighting in the connection - cracking jokes I know she likes because then I see that radiant smile.
In conducting their relationship this way, they are consciously aligning with a set of beliefs that say, "my partner and I can stay connected and happy and we can share an amazing intimacy and grow into better versions of ourselves in the process."
Same with career development - there are plenty of examples in life of people going after what they want in career and achieving the desired results. I know for some people, it is easy to switch jobs due to a fantastic network, the fact their skill set is awesome and they believe they deserve it no matter what the economy looks like.
Most of us don't live in that matrix - we live in poverty consciousness, believe that the economy limits our possibilities and that our previous choices mean that we are doomed forever to a path that doesn't work for us.
Recognition - if you can become conscious of your situation before it explodes or you get that divorce paper in the mail - may be half the battle - but what's next?
Hearing from an outside party that it is clear you are not happy when you are around a certain person you have been dating, may be hard to hear, at first and perhaps ruffle feathers and yet it may be the first step in becoming conscious of why you are going through the motions, not asking for more from life.
Realize, too that the reason you brought someone into your life who is willing to call you on unconscious behavior, is because you really truly desire something more. If you didn't you wouldn't have that person there - they are simply reflecting something you know is true.
Fostering agreements early on in relationships, that allow for direct communication about what you are feeling is key to forwarding momentum when you get to a stuck place later on. Sometimes it takes one person to "snap out of it" and be willing to say, "I'd prefer a different kind of joke" or "What can we do to reconnect to that happy joyful place." Date nights, a vacation, simply communicating more and certainly removing outworn beliefs systems about the seven year itch, or the 10 year doldrums would be good moves.
If you entered an incompatible relationship, all for the wrong reasons based on the limiting beliefs you had when you entered it, and you recognize that you are at a "dead end." it may be time to stop "trying to make it work" and move on. It is OK to not try every possible avenue to "fix it."
Moving the Energy
As for the career, in recognizing that I had a set of limiting beliefs a year ago- I could see the reasons I had agreed to the circumstances at hand. In some ways, the path had given me some breathing room to discover what I really wanted and do some healing work. It wasn't all bad, but no point in beating a dead horse.
I had several conversations early on both about the financial arrangement and the fact I was over-qualified with mentors and astute friends and in the end, the conclusion we drew at the beginning was most certainly the result I got. The position to be able to change the format of something while still in it requires that you entered a compatible arrangement at the beginning - then there is room to redefine and move forward.
The couple, should they choose to take a a conscious path now, have the opportunity to grow forward because they are energetically compatible and love each other on a deep level.
In the case of the ill-fitting relationship and the ill-fitting job, another technique will have to be employed in shifting the structure. The first step is to define a new structure - in my case, I spent the last six months releasing the limiting beliefs that had me choosing it in the first place, and then working with mentors and friends to define what it was I wanted to see in its place.
Even if you are largely unconscious of the process of redefining what you want, know that on a higher level most of us are doing this every day. The environment itself will begin to be uncomfortable. The relationship dynamics will keep insisting your address the incongruency. The harder you try the less happy you will feel trying and eventually the structure will disband. But why wait so long?
How can it get any better than this?
While it may take time and consistent application of the new form, the Universe or energy will respond to the shift and move into the new structure. You may during this time experience the uncomfortable nature of being in two worlds - you are no longer defined by the old structure or relationship, but you may still be in it and you know you are no longer the person who would make that choice.
The well-meaning friends mentioned above may not know what to do with you and may council you to forget that new thing and be happy being comfortable like they are. Be wary of that energy that wants to keep you stagnant. They may also try harder to please you - think of the disbanding relationship - that person may try to make some changes that appear like they are worth "trying again" for....be wary of that too.
Going for what you truly want may not be easy and you most definitely will find yourself questioning the sanity of trying more than once. It is unusual to be that forward in making personal change a priority over comfort and fear-based thinking.
You may find yourself questioning if the new energy structure is really want you wanted or if you were kidding yourself. Realize it is you at the deeper level of your being that asked to create a new structure - you already chose it, now you are reforming/reformatting to move into that space.
Try and enjoy the process even when it stinks. It will get better and that new relationship and job will be so amazing and fun because you were willing to step into the highest level of what you are capable of achieving and not take no for an answer.