Thursday, January 24, 2013
What I See
One of the things I notice on my daily Facebook travels is the almost constant need for people to tell me what is true for them in a way that suggests they think it should be true for me also.
Having convictions about things is certainly not a bad thing - if we don't have a moral and personal compass we're going to be subject to a constant influence of others with no way to "test" that against anything. A person who is like this, is often termed "boundary-less" or "lacking boundaries." They are like a ship without a steer mechanism and their lives often exhibit the quality of no conviction or direction.
Nevertheless, there is an equal lack of boundaries that comes from insisting you are right and others are wrong and your personal feelings are the only way to go about things.
The planet is a very diverse place and has opportunities for everyone to experience a variety of ways of being in the world.
We also limit our possibilities by being too rigid about our particular point of view. It may mean that we go out and seek "evidence" to back up our point of view, never seeing that there is an equal amount of evidence for other points of view. It's way the Access Consciousness folks have a clearing statement called "Interesting Point of View..."
Granted, if you are running a business - you will have developed a point of view or structure that shapes what you put out there and attracts a certain client - normally called an "ideal" client as your business base.
Usually, this comes about after you have decided that you'd like to concentrate on a particular client base who are attracted by a particular language and set of ideals. Again, nothing wrong with setting up a focus like this. Even this blog has a focus and a particular mindset about it that won't be for every human being on the planet.
I am still cognizant, however that my point of view, is going to be true for some people and not others. It isn't the only way to live life nor the right way but for the right person, my viewpoint could express something which allows them to expand their life or their business in a way that is True for them also.
What is True?
I have heard many energetic healers speak of how we feel when we make decisions. A good way to to gauge if something is True for you, is to check-in to your body about how you feel when you hear a speaker, read a blog like this one or take in an "opinion" or "viewpoint," that someone is espousing.
Christie Marie Sheldon, the abundance and vibration guru has a muscle testing format she uses. She has the client say "yes yes yes" and express what their body feels like. Then say, "no no no" and feel what that feels like in their body. With some practice and repetition, you should find yourself developing a pretty accurate intuition that gives you a clear "Yes" - this is true/good for me, and a clear, "No" - this is not True/Good for me.
As you begin to use this to test "viewpoints" rather than just take them on as right or true, you'll find yourself more in alignment with an appropriate set of decisions that is good for you. Realize, it may not be good for someone else.
One example that is popular, is the insistence that veganism or vegetarianism is a right choice for everyone. I almost guarantee if you muscle test food choices, you will find that while this may be an 'interesting point of view' for those people who say that they feel better and look better with a vegetable-oriented diet change, it may not be that interesting or "True for you." Visa versa applies.
Communicating What Is True
In interpersonal relations it will likely become necessary to communicate what is True for you to others who may or may not have the same thoughts, opinions and conditions you do in life. It's all well and good when things are superficial to quietly or silently say "interesting point of view," to something you hear someone saying when you don't care to actually relate to them going forward.
But let's say you are in a serious romantic relationship or deep friendship - what then? Well, hopefully with the right "consciously" minded people surrounding you, you can feel free to speak up about your differences in these areas.
You may have to set boundaries or make agreements about what you are willing to do when there is a conflict in what is True for either party. Most relationships run sour when a person holds onto what is True for them, insists the other person "take it on," or else and aren't willing to allow the other person to hold a separate and valid "truism."
What kind of possibilities could exist in a relationship if you are able to consciously create an agreement to openly accept what is True for each other, and enjoy each other's company? Sure, in romantic bonds, you may have to determine in the dating phase, if the number of things that are differences are worth the agro.
After all, you really should have more in common and "true" than not, but still form a dynamic partnership in which the differences actually add to the affection and create amazing shifts in each other toward being better people in general.
If the differences are so great, and only cause friction, it may be time to re-evaluate the compatibility of the relationship.